Feb 15, 2019
People that travel, tour together or have shows, podcasts or duos together are they really friends? I ask because if one friend asks you a question and you answer them then the other friend asks the same question, why didn’t their friend help them? That’s what I’d like to know because it’s occurred in several instances and it leaves me puzzled. I expect your friend to help you and share the knowledge that I’ve given. It’s really not my job to help but I do when I feel like. If knowledge is readily and obviously available then I don’t have to. I don’t think it’s right to be angry at the world when you have to examine your friendship. It’s so wild.
People really think others are bothered with them when in reality you’re focusing on yourself and your issues. I could care less about what the next person is doing, I have too many problems in my personal life. Sky high. And God knows I’m tired of answering the same thing repeatedly. I’ve complained about this in the past it’s too much stress. Recently I was asked about touring by someone who asked me a couple months ago, the very same question and I scrolled up the DM and screenshot what I answered. I did not get a reply or thank you back. I’m not sure what they were seeking. I don’t understand at times. How many times must I repeat myself? It’s a pet peeve of mine.
Heaven helps those who help the self and the internet is free. Seriously if you want to tour anywhere google the place plus escort and the first page is your answer. It’s so easy. Common sense. Research. Oh someone travels there check their site, check their links/banners, sites have people banner share, even check Alexa, visit these sites, visit the people on the site, explore them too, visit their twitter and scroll down check for tags or @s explore explore, it takes TIME that many do not want to put out. Where you want to advertise or host or charge just research all this people it’s market research is it not? It’s part of the job. Oh I see so many people hosting in this area it must be a good place or go according to google for instance where is the finance side of town or this that or high end shopping or neighborhood or this that blah blah. It is soooooo time consuming.
It’s just folk don’t want to do homework, or spend money to figure things out. Cheat sheet only. People of the mind set why do I have to do this work when I can get it off someone else. I don’t understand people at times. Do people ever think of the people that did the homework nope. This shit took time, you take time and search too. That is the thing because when you do the homework then you discover this things as well. You know how it’s not easy. Be it sleepless nights researching.
You’re lucky if you have a friend that just gives out info or puts you on or is super genuine. And most times it’s not about you, people need to rid that mindset.
General rules apply to everyone, no favoritism, all fair and equal. Never expect people to help you, their help is a privilege.
There was a post on Twitter about screening references or so and delay in response and one of the posters mentions ladies should have other methods to screen same applies to getting information, have other methods of obtaining it and not relying on the help of others. Rely on yourself first, you can never fail you. I get irritated when I see passive aggressive posts like can your friends help you?! Why are you afraid to ask your friend for help? Are you being secretive with your friend? Why not mad at friend and deflect to others? Why pick and choose who to be mad at? Why do some people think everything is competition? If someone doesn’t help me I move along, I don’t think anything of it just ok I’ll figure it out. I don’t get mad about it.
I have people ask me about places I’ve never visited and I literally do not know what to say.
A long time ago when I was a baby hoe and dreaming of traveling abroad while researching I asked some ladies questions and they never answered me. Skips a few years and it’s the same me that is doing all these trips.
I am not a mentor, sorry. I am still working on me. So please do not be upset if I cannot aide. I am not offering any mentor ship anytime now or in the future.There are several people who actually do mentor and are willing to help for a small fee, there are books, there are podcasts and there is always experimenting till you figure it out. It’s a process. What works best for one may not for another. Experience really is the best teacher.
People need to stop believing what others tell them or things you see online, they could be lying to you. They could sell you. This is why you must be self sufficient. Eg a while ago I asked about make up artists in a group chat and one of the ladies gave a bs answer. But she was “helping”
You can trust yourself.
Anything you must do even outside this life research the fuck out of it and execute, if you fail try again, adjust till you get it right. I hear all kinds of wild stories and with personal experience I’m even more careful. All these outings and all, how else did they come about?
Sometimes you want to be friends with people but they say/do things that make you skeptical. I try not to get too close to people. I think it’s interesting how some ladies are friends and know each other’s personal info. I don’t think I’ve ever shared that with anyone like really, who can you trust. With outings both parties know each other and some fall out or so arises. I’m not worried about any outing but I really do wonder about these friendships. If you fall out are you the type to out or to just go on your way
Sometimes you want to be friends with people but they say/do things that make you skeptical. I try not to get too close to people. I think it’s interesting how some ladies are friends and know each other’s personal info and super comfortable. I don’t think I’ve ever shared that with anyone like really, who can you trust? With outings both parties know each other and some fall out or so arises. I’m not worried about any outing but I really do wonder about these friendships. If you fall out are you the type to out or to just go on your way. People are crazy, a lot in SW, male and female.